Will a doula replace my partner in labor?
A lot of people wonder, “Will a doula replace my partner in labor?”
Short answer: NO!
Doulas “read the room” and check in with partners as well as birthing people to see what they need during labor and birth. In prenatal sessions, doulas get to know birthing persons and their partners so that when it’s “game time,” we’re on the same page. We understand a birthing person’s and partner’s motivations and philosophies, comfort zones, and concerns. We also know what it looks like if you’re not okay and what to do if you’re not okay, based on your preferences.
During the labor process, a birthing person’s partner may need any range of things:
reassurance
explanations of what is happening or happening next
encouragement to ask medical providers a clarifying question
acknowledgement and validation of feelings
someone staying with them if a baby goes to the nursery or NICU, or they are not allowed in the OR
someone keeping them as calm as possible
education about newborn care procedures
Doulas also know when and how to “get out of the way” so that partners can do what they’re comfortable doing-- whether it’s providing massage, counter pressure or holding their laboring partner’s hand.
Doulas make sure partners have what they need to be their best selves during labor and birth-- perhaps a breath of fresh air, a quick walk to regroup, a bite to eat, or some rest.
How would you like a doula to support you and your partner? If you’ve had a doula, how did they support you and your partner?
Reach Out! For more help navigating the seismic shift into parenthood, reach out to the Boston Area Doulas team.
www.bostonareadoulas.com
Disclaimer: Doulas are not medical personnel and do not diagnose, perform any medical exams or clinical tasks. Information presented above is not intended as a substitute for the medical advice of a properly licensed health care professional.
